This post has been long coming. I guess I needed to get to a point where I was ‘ok’ to write about my hair journey. If you have been following my blog for a while, you would have seen my progress through the years to where I am now. It has been a beautiful evolution.
While my blog started in 2010, I didn’t post pictures of myself until 2012. My hair was how I had always kept it. I would blow dry & wear it down mostly. It doesn’t really grow very nicely once it reaches a certain point, or at least it didn’t. Then in 2013, I discovered the gorgeous Frontrow clip in extensions. I loved them so much & wanted to wear them everyday – so I did for the most part. In 2014, I changed up my extensions & tried out the Frontrow Ombre style, which I loved too. I know many people don’t like that ombre – but I did. Towards the end of 2014 I started to feel a sense a boredom related to my hair. So, in October I cut it off. I started off with my hair slightly longer at the top, & shorter at the sides & back.
Shock & Horror – I have no hair left…
If I told you I freaked out when I had the initial hair cut, you would not believe how badly. I cried all day & night on that first day. I was literally hysterical. I would walk up & down to the mirror, stare, walk away, cry, repeat. You know how they say a woman who changes her hair is about to change her life? Well, let’s just say I had plenty going on in my life at the time. It was indeed life changing.
Hair will grow back…
After the initial shock & horror, I figured hey – it’s going to grow back eventually. And that was when I started to calm down about the situation, & begin to embrace my new look. That being said, it’s going to take a while to get to a comfortable length, & you need to keep that in mind. This is not something you get to try for a month or two & then it’s over.
Choose the right style…
I am lucky enough to have an oval shaped face which takes to many hairstyles. So, the hair cut looked pretty good on me. However, I do suggest that you do a little research before you take the plunge. Also, I suggest keeping lots on pictures for your hair stylist so that he/she knows exactly what you want.
Bad hair days suck!
I used to be able to hide my hair on the bad days. I could put it up in a bun or ponytail. But now – that’s it. My business is out there for the world to see. You need to ask yourself if you are ok with that.
This is High-Maintainence!!!
My mom keeps her hair short, so I know what is involved in the maintenance of it. However, it seems I would’ve been quite delusional at the time of my hair cut because I didn’t think it would be that much maintenance. Silly right? Before this, I was able to do my own hair, on any day of the week, at any time of day or night. I had this routine where I would watch a tv show while I straighten & blow dried my hair late at night. But now, I have to go into the salon once a week to get a blow out. I also now have to get more frequent hair cuts because my hair grows out of shape very quickly. And shape is very important with a short hair cut. Oh & high maintenance means more money being spent on your hair. I rarely went to the hair salon so I have an added monthly expense now.
Things could change, in a bad way…
Since cutting my hair, I have been experiencing extremely bad dry scalp. It is seriously disgusting. I guess it’s a combination of now doing Brazilian blow outs, & also my scalp being more exposed than ever. I have been using the Moroccan Oil Dry Scalp Treatment which has been helping me. It is almost finished now, so I am thinking I should try something different. Any suggestions?
Most guys prefer long hair.
This is no secret. We know this. I actually don’t know why. Is it just a coloured thing though, because I know many coloured guys who can’t handle short hair. As for me, I think having short hair shows confidence. I had a conversation with a close friend about my short hair. In my opinion I was pretty hot before the hair cut. Then, I cut my hair off & guess what? Still hot. Some would argue that my hotness increased. As for me, I think it’s the extra burst of confidence since exposing myself without any hair to hide behind. Some guys may pass me over because my hair is short. That’s ok. I think there are plenty guys out there who will like your short hair. Besides, we don’t cut our hair for men do we?! Although, if you are in a relationship I think you should at least mention the topic to your partner to get his reaction. Just a little observation – when I travel to China I see more women with short hair than long hair.
This could be your best move yet!
After my initial cut when my hair was longer at the top, I decided to go further & cut off the top so that it was more like a pixie cut. With that cut, I also decided to start doing Brazilian blow outs. Previously I had relaxed my hair in order to keep it under control. This damaged my hair over the years. So, when my hair stylist suggested I try the Brazilian blow out instead, I was eager to try it because it is less harmful to my hair. Since making the change, I have seen a great change in my hair. I am even starting to see my natural curl come through again. It looks much healthier, & it’s growing faster. One of the things I often laugh about with Jerome is that short hair blows in the wind a little more ‘pretty’. Before I would freak out when it was windy, but now I just go with it. Was this my best move? Absolutely! I think I will keep my hair short for quite a while. It really has become something I love. Although, I must admit my selfies will never be the same. lol
Here are a few of my favourite short hair moments. Enjoy 🙂